A few moments in "da lyfe:"

winter. two teenaged women (oxymoron? GET USED TO IT) pass me, one giggles and shout-whispers "dude, that a girl or a guy?" I smile, smug to myself-oh, didn't they see? can't they tell? Then realize...that's kind of what I'm going for.

I still get a little hung up when I dress for queer events/parties. Do I look gay enough? Should I butch it up more? will I get away with a dress AND lots of eye makeup? If I wear a straggly vest and tough boots? I've spoken some to some queer friends who complain of a lack of visibility. I don't know if I'm visible all the time, but I definitely have worked my wardrobe/style a bit gayer. Summer helps. Hairy armpits are still pretty gay. Especially sans hippie-trappings.